Is keeping secrets from your partner just as bad as lying?

We’re talking about lying by omission. It may not seem like selective honesty would create problems within a marriage, but keeping secrets from your partner is a form of lying. Doing this can create cracks in the foundation of a relationship and lead to the destruction of a marriage.

Many couples are unaware of the powerful message they are sending by intentionally withholding information. Sometimes couples think that keeping secrets from one another is being “helpful,” or that they are “sparing the other,” but that isn’t the case. When one or both partners in the relationship have secrets that the other don’t know about, trust and communication are compromised. After a marriage has been hit by secrets and lies, the dynamic has been changed for the worst.

Our guest today is Dr. Janet Savia, a clinical psychologist with Lepage Associates. According to Janet, secrets and lies create deep wounds, but can be healed with honesty and guidance. Though it may seem impossible to regain trust within a marriage that is plagued with secrets and lies, it’s not. Change can be real.

To find out more about Janet and the practice, Lepage Associates, visit their website, or call (919) 572-0000 to make an appointment.

Do you and your partner have different financial goals for the future?

Marriage means the joining of two households, two lifestyles and two bank accounts. So what happens when a shopaholic and a penny pincher get married? It’s a financial catastrophe!

All couples, be it newlyweds or marathon marriages, have arguments over finances. The key to making sure your marriage survive rests in the details of how you handle the financial fist fights, and whether or not you can turn these squabbles into something more productive for the future.

How can a couple begin to plan for their financial future together when they can’t stop arguing over this months credit card statement?

Who better to give us insight into making marriage and finances work than someone who deals with divorcing couples. Philip Rusnack is a Registered Investment Advisor and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst. Philip started Divorce Settlement Solutions after three decades as a financial planner and now practices in Chapel Hill, NC. Philip sees a real need for couples to have a sound financial picture of their lives before it creates trouble in their marriage. To find out more about Philip Rusnack and his financial services, you can call 919-533-6254.


Is it possible that having too much money can ruin a marriage? We all have stress in our life. Too many hours at work, too little time with the kids, too much money….wait…what? We always hear of the stress and arguments that can come from finances being stretched too tightly, but it isn’t very often that we hear of the damaging effects that too much money can cause. Is it possible that living in the lap of luxury could mean loosing your spouse?

Dr. Ashley Freeman is a psychologist with Lepage Associates in Durham, NC. She holds a Doctorate in Counseling Psychology, as well as a Master’s in Psychology, from Iowa State. Her clinical experiences are diverse, as she continually seeks the new and the challenging. Dr. Freeman is experienced in individual, couples, family and group therapy for all ages. Ashley has worked in a variety of clinical settings including college counseling centers, group therapy clinics, university departmental clinics, private practice and even a home for veterans.

To find out more about Dr. Ashley Freeman and Lepage Associates you can visit their website or call 919-572-0000 for an appointment.