Are you affected by infidelity in your marriage?
Infidelity appears to be a hot trend in marriages these days. We are plagued with stories about our friends or family members subject to adultery and cheating in their relationships. With social media constantly creating means of communication, we are continuously able to connect with others and share our stories, concerns, and problems. This readily accessible means of communication can lead to effortless temptations to become unfaithful to our loved ones. Affairs can be either emotional or sexual or a combination of both. Whether they are emotional, sexual or both, there are consequences that may lead to emotional distress to the other spouse. What happens when your spouse or loved one violates the set of rules in your relationship by betraying their fidelity?
Lesli Doares is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in Cary, NC. In her practice, Balance Family Therapy, her focus is on helping couples build strong, secure relationships. It is her belief that marriage is a different kind of relationship and, with the proper tools and techniques, most couples can have a happy and successful relationship. Lesli brings both her personal experience and professional training to her work with couples. Her passionate belief in marriage has led to the development of a five step theoretical approach that Lesli detailed in her book Blueprint for a Lasting Marriage: How to Create Your Happily Ever After With More Intention, Less Work. Lesli also writes the A Fearless Marriage Blog where she addresses common challenges to today’s marriages.
To find out more about Ms. Lesli Doares and her practice, Balanced Family Therapy, you can visit their website or call (919) 924-0463 for an appointment.
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How can couples pick good friends that are healthy for their relationship?
Sometimes, in the beginning stages of a marriage, couples are more focused on starting and raising a family rather than making a lot of friends… They can become more centered around parenting issues– how to raise the kids, where to have family vacations, who will pick the kids up from school and take them to various practices– things of that nature. When the kids get older and more independent, however, there’s more time for a couple to build a social life with friends that revolves around things other than play dates and kids’ birthday parties.
But what if a couple ends up facing conflict as a result of their social life? How can they navigate it together so that both partners are happy and comfortable? At times, couples might have to take a closer look at their friendships and determine what the root of the problem is– because sometimes it’s not necessarily the friends.
Today’s guest is Dr. Susan Orenstein, the director of Orenstein Solutions in Cary, NC. Susan has worked with many couples who have faced these very issues, and she’s here to discuss a way to fix the problems. According to her, when a couple is in a place where they can trust and respect each other, she can guide them to be more creative with their problem-solving techniques.
To find out more about Susan and her practice, visit their website or call (919) 428-2766
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Is it really possible to truly forgive and forget when it comes to infidelity?
Every human has needs. When it comes right down to it, greed can be one of those needs. More often than it should happen, in life, people look at what’s out there and suddenly what they have isn’t enough. As our guest, Dr. Scott Halztman, says, “we live in a culture that says ‘you can have what you want, when you want it.'” This means that there can be a lot left that falls to the wayside when the greed impulse takes over, and oftentimes broken marriages and relationships are left in the wake.
When mistakes are made and hearts are broken, is there ever a way to repair the damage, move on and grow?
Today’s guest says that it is possible to recover from an affair and he has detailed exactly how this can be done in his latest book, The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity.
Certified by the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology, Dr. Scott Haltzman is also a Distinguished Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association. A graduate of Brown, Scott completed his psychiatric training and chief residency at Yale University before love for his Alma Mater took him back to Rhode Island to serve on the Brown University faculty.
To find out more about Scott and his latest book, The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity, visit his website or check him out on Facebook.
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