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Reluctance To Get Help: Four Myths Couples Believe
By Susan Orenstein, Ph.D. In our daily lives, there are lots of routine ways we check to make sure things are on track. Consider, for example, annual medical check-up, kids’ report cards, car tune-ups, monthly bank statements, or the dreaded work evaluation. All are seen as a way to proactively detect and address problems to…
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Treat Your Marriage Like Your Teeth!
By Betty Phillips Now what kind of whacked-out title is this? Is Phillips off her rocker? Well, just think about it. We’re told to pay daily attention to our dental health, brush and floss each night and seek professional assessment with dental checkups every six months. When a dental problem is discovered we invest immediately in…
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Marriage Counseling: For Us?
By Betty Phillips Why do people think twice about calling a marriage counselor when they don’t hesitate to call other specialists for professional services? Tax advisers, interior designers, home inspectors, doctors, dentists, all stand ready to provide advice and consultation services when requested. There’s no need for any admission of failure when you call a…
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How to Argue and Stay Married!
By Betty Phillips After the honeymoon, when you realize that 50% of all marriages actually do end in divorce, marriage partners begin to realize the enormity of the tasks involved in staying happily married. Positive conflict management becomes a high priority in keeping marriages together.All couples argue, even in successful marriages, but happily married partners…
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The Four A’s of an A+ Marriage
By Carmella Broome, Ed.S., LPC/I, LMFT/I There is a lot of talk among marriage counselors about the 4 A’s that can spell doom for marriages. These “big four” are abuse, addictions, adultery, and abandonment. There is another set of four A’s, though. This second set is much more positive and recommended for every marriage. They…
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Relationship Check-Up
By: Leslie Doares 1. What made you fall in love with your partner, and what do you love most about him/her now? 2. When did you feel the most loved by your partner, and what specific things did he/she do to make you feel loved? 3. What needs to happen to make your partner a…